Working on your Shadow is hard work. We must look at what really motivates us and clean up our acts.
If our self-esteem is determined by how others treat us, that vulnerability can be manipulated by others. Social pressure and the need for approval can weaken our own confidence. Some people exploit this by shaming and judging. These are toxic methods for dominating others. The sad part of this is how many of us allow it.
People who have done their Shadow work see through this abusive behavior. They leave and the perpetrator is rendered harmless.
Shadow work brings the less pleasant truths about our fears and shortcomings to the surface. Once we recognize these beliefs and behaviors for what they are, we can accept them and the need to change.