07-28-16b

The Middle Ground

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It’s the Shadow time of year on the Wisdom Wheel calendar as our Leo friends celebrate their birthdays. One of the most famous living Leos is President Barack Obama who will turn 55 on August 4. Currently, he is living at the center of the Wheel of Life, under the Law of Balance as we all do, from ages 0-2, 27-29, 54-56, and 81-83.

Couldn’t we all benefit from more Balance right now? Do whatever you need to to get yours back, especially if you feel manipulated by those who exploit divide and conquer tactics during these Democratic and Republican conventions. It’s a relief to know the Balance Law is nudging the Commander in Chief at the moment but each of must work to help hold the center.

On social media, I’ve actively resisted being pushed into opposing camps. For the sake of Balance, I am seeking out and welcoming differing viewpoints. Otherwise, we end up in an echo chamber, only hearing what we like, and ignoring the reality of the rest.

Neither Republicans nor Democrats have spoken enough about how to heal the riffs between their parties. Their conventions have further polarized voters. And no one can talk about improving things for the middle class in the US or other countries, without talking about enlarging the middle ground at the center.

Have you heard about how either party is going to level the playing field so 85% of the additional wealth being created in the US is going to be shared across the board in the future instead of going into the pockets of the 1%, like it has lately? Tax reform alone will not restore us to Balance, which is another word for fairness, justice and equality.

Hatred, acrimony and violence come from those who feel marginalized and excluded. How can we bring them back into the Process? If we abandon the center, and fail to build consensus and restore Balance, others will continue to employ the Shadow side of prejudice, ignorance and fear to take advantage of those who already feel vulnerable and in need of a savior.

Recognize the tactics and resist being pushed into warring camps. Polarization keeps us off Balance and unable to unify. This weakens everyone. Don’t fail to see how crucial the middle ground is.

07-26-16

Life Lessons Over 18 Holes

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My young Japanese friend Rintaro is golf-obsessed. So I recently took him, and myself, for a golf lesson.

There are about 7 golf courses within a 20-minute drive of my house – no lie! In the past, I played golf one or twice a year. Now I’m hitting the green at least twice a month.

Our instructor Isaac first watched me swing the club. He immediately identified a key problem with my technique. I followed his directive and soon, I was hitting the ball much better.

Isaac understands the Process of the golf swing and he helped me figured out how to be in Right Relationship with the club and the ball. He sees the Cause and Effect as I prepared to hit the ball.

The following day, I played a round of golf with Rintaro and his father. It was the best game of my life!

If only it were that simple in life! I need to practice more, but I have confidence that I will improve, even at my age.

When we Journey not the golf course, but the path of our life, the Wisdom Wheel can give us pointers like Isaac did, so we can succeed and feel that we have accomplished much.

The Wisdom Wheel laws can each play their part as we journey towards old age, giving us life lessons along the way. A golf course has 18 holes. Life has 81 years (or more) if we are lucky. The Wheel can be with us each day, of each year, helping us score well, in our jobs, with our families and friends, and with ourselves.

07-20-16

The Good Life

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In these turbulent and violent times, I am grateful to live in such a peaceful place. The other evening, the toughest choice I faced was whether to order fish or clams strips.

Tom likes his fries!

Tom likes his fries!


This was Friday night. Little Tom (whom I wrote about previously), our guest Rintaro and I went to the beach to frolic by the sea and enjoy some seafood. As we all tucked into our food, it seemed like all was right in our little corner of the world.
Rintaro chows down on his fish and chips!

Rintaro chows down on his fish and chips!


Tom and Rintaro know little of the Wisdom Wheel. But they are Loved and nurtured. Although they haven’t studied Right Relationship or Right Action, they exist in an environment where folks can Trust and feel empathy.

As I walked along the beach feeling the sand between my toes, I wasn’t on high alert. I meandered and meditated as I took in the sea air and the cascading waves tickled my calves. Still, I felt sadness for the victims of the recent violence. I carry the laws of Right Relationship and Right Action in hopes that I can make a positive impact on the environment I live in, and that others do the same.

07-11-16

The Web of Ultimate Reality

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As I brushed my teeth the other day with bleary eyes, I spotted a gypsy moth caught in a spiderweb. The moth flapped vigorously in an escape attempt. But no matter how hard it struggled, the Ultimate Reality was that it would be a meal for the spider. After some moments, it stopped, exhausted from effort.

The next day, the Process of capture and encasement was complete. The moth was gone, eaten by the spider probably, as part of nature’s Cycle.

What webs do we find ourselves in? As children, we’re stuck in the web of family dynamics. We seek Right Relationship before our Higher Purpose. The entangled web of finding our Higher Purpose comes in our late teens and early twenties on the North side of the Wheel.

Sometimes the spiderweb of societal expectations feels more like a leash. Rather than focus on a Journey imposed on me by society, I’ve chosen to concentrate on the inner Journey. That Journey that leads to Forgiveness of Self and hence for others.

The spider does what it has to do for survival. It traps the moth and eats it. That is its Higher Purpose in the Cycle of life. That is its Ultimate Reality. We, however, have more options. We can make Choices and be Creative about our path.

I know what my Right Action is. It is to be in Right Relationship with others and to have empathy. I know this is the only way forwards for me, toward Sacred Oneness.

07-07-16

On Great Mystery

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I recently found the yellowed pages of a reading from 1985.

When I consulted Gustave, the clairvoyant astrologer, I was 31 and living in Paris. At that time, I was seeking a sense of direction. I was hoping Gustave would provide what I called back then “objective feedback from the universe”. I wanted someone to check my assumptions and tell me whether I was on the right course. 

Nowadays, I suppose people would go to a psychologist for the kind of guidance I craved but I was raised in a family that wouldn’t consider therapy. My father was an airplane pilot, always up in the sky, near the stars. You could say he came by astrology honestly. More than a mere hobby, my father never hired an employee before determining their natal chart. He never had to fire anyone either.
 
Why do we consult readers and fortune-tellers? We live in the most “modern” times in a society that has benefited from many scientific and technological revolutions, yet we continue to look to systems that are not science or logic-based.

Why did I choose a clairvoyant astrologer over a psychologist? I wanted a reading related to what is eternal: the universe, the seasons, the sun and lunar cycles. Gustave’s point-of-view and grand context helped me from falling prey to the idea that life is nothing but random chaos and then you die. Gustave’s context was what I now call Great Mystery.

He foretold that I would become a teacher of “perennial wisdom”. A mere 10 years later, I found myself being called by the medicine wheels and its natural traditions. The calling was so strong, too strong to ignore.

07-05-16

Follow Me

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I’ve just returned from a quick project in Singapore. While in transit at the Moscow Airport, I saw a “Follow Me” car. These cars assist and guide international landing planes to their proper taxi and gate. Naturally the “Follow Me” car driver knows his way around the airport runways and taxiways better than the pilots who fly into the airport only once in a while. It’s a pragmatic and effective Process to guide these metal flying behemoths when the pilot is in unfamiliar territory.

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The “Follow Me” car in action

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The “Follow Me” car in action

I like to think we could use Wisdom Wheel as a “Follow Me” guide on our Journeys. When I find myself in unfamiliar terrain, or meet strangers, go new places, or experience new challenges, I use the Wisdom Wheel principles to get back to basics. It’s my calibration tool, guide, my compass. Even when I make mistakes, which I do often, I can forgive myself, because I’ve learned to be in Right Relationship with myself. “Follow Me” is the Ultimate Reality of the soul’s voice, the inner voice I listen to. May it continue to serve me well on the Journey.

06-27-16

Brexit and the Law of Choices

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There’s a saying: “A week is a long time in politics”.

As many of you know, I am British and this saying was proven yet again this week in my motherland. This week’s referendum was an example of the Law of Choices on a national (even global) scale.

Apparently, the majority of British voters feel that the Right Action is to “Leave” the European Union. Will their Faith in England be rewarded? Time will tell, I suppose.

In my humble opinion, the “Remain” campaign was not in Right Relationship with the English folks outside of London. Their campaign lacked an Awareness of the gap between the “haves” and the “have-nots”.  Many in the “Leave” camp do not Trust the political leaders in London, much less in Brussels.

Fear also fueled the decision to “Leave”. People are fearful of the immigration crisis, open borders, and Europeans (and refugees) taking English jobs.

However, England’s Journey back to self-sufficiency is having global repercussions. The Pound Sterling has dropped to a 30-year low and the stock markets are tumbling. Even my small English pension is worth much less, but I can deal with that. This is a lesson I am taking with me on a personal level. It’s important that we all maintain an inner sense of Balance and self-sufficiency while chaos reigns in the outer world.

Good luck to my country of birth. May there be Right Relationship now between those who chose to Leave and those who chose to Remain.

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Process and the Price of Wisdom

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Can wisdom be bought? I could charge $1,000 for a Wisdom Wheel book or experience, but the guarantee of change afterwards depends entirely upon you.

On the one hand we say we want change. We see violence and we want something different — peace, civility, stability and security. But we’re constantly delaying the Process. There’s emails to send, dishes to wash, kids to pick up, etc, etc. Our modern, busy culture has conditioned us to follow political candidates or religious leaders who’ll do the heavy lifting for us while we’re trying to get through the work week.

The most unpopular among us tell the truth: that it is up to you to do the work. This will never make us financially rich, but it is immensely satisfying to be in the company of souls as they grow and evolve.

This week, we celebrated the vision quest fast of a Wisdom Wheel graduate. Her dedication is paying off in ways that money can’t buy. Deeply embedded pains, old traumas and the despair around changes she faces have left her.

When I put her out on her fast, I had to Trust that her Surrender of comforts, water, food, technologies would ‘work’. That Process is part of the Great Mystery. She was ready. The groundwork had been laid over 3 years. Every day, she said her prayers, did her work, ran her household, and journaled about the monthly Law in our study group. Receiving our daily emails on her 1,000 Day Journey and hosting our monthly study circles helped the Process, too.

Devotion. Dedication. Reverence. What are these things worth? Community. Ceremony. Ritual. We need to make space for these things in our lives in order to anchor the changes in our day-to-day. This is how to bless yourself with the wisdom beyond your ken.

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How Do We Make Positive Change?

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It’s been a tough week in the wake of the mass shooting in Orlando. How can we begin to change the behavior of those who believe that violence is the answer?

Some say change is the most difficult challenge for people. Could the Wisdom Wheel help change the way many angry young men feel? They seem alienated and alone. Rather than projecting their anger on others in the form of violence, better to go inward. On the Wisdom Wheel, this “go within” place is something like the “dark night of the soul”, like Jesus’s Gethsemane. It’s associated with the body, and also, feminine energy. It’s no coincidence that is also where the Law of Compassion resides, right alongside the Law of Power. As we all know too well, Power without Compassion can be dangerous.

I hope one day that we can invite those who are disenfranchised, angry, and without direction to sit circle with us and be heard. What if we handed them the talking stick and quietly listened to their stories? I believe, fervently, with all my heart, that when we become the Sacred Listener, we join the Sacred Oneness that makes a difference and helps people (and us!) change.

Violence only adds fuel to the fire of mayhem and fear. Let’s look inward to transform our anger into a productive force for positive change. Let’s summon our Compassion. Let us listen to one another. Let’s use our “arms” to hold, to Love instead of kill or maim.

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Work, work, work…

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What constitutes our work?

We all struggle with this to varying degrees. Is work strictly what earns money? What about the unpaid hours of mothers, wives, caretakers and friends? Is it any less important because there’s no dollar amount attached to it? Is the real work what thrills us? Scares us?

Oddly, I think the highest compliment my husband gives people is “They’ve done their work”. But what does that mean? That they’ve spent time in therapy? That they know themselves well enough to stop projecting on others?

Initiations teach us about ourselves. You learn your limits: for tolerance, fear, hunger and thirst. Next week I’ll be supervising a faster on her first vision quest alone. While she’s out in the woods by our house, I expect I’ll relive my own Initiation in that tradition, too.

But last week, when an Initiation of my own came, it was something quite different. It was an Initiation I almost gave up on ever happening… A publisher accepted my memoir manuscript.

When I got the email, my body went through a combination of shock, elation, disbelief and resolve. And I’m still not entirely over it. After steeling myself for the many rejections writers receive, I hardly knew what to do with myself when the acceptance came.

Of course, there’s a lot of hard work ahead. There’s editing to complete, packing, distributing, marketing and all the rest, but the Choice has been made, and the Commitment was kept. My Trust in my Higher Purpose and Right Action follow-through on it has given me proof about the Process. Being published is a big deal! It’s a new Initiation for me.