Truth and Consequences


What are the consequences of not speaking the truth? The Ultimate Reality of lying is that we cannot be Trusted. Lies cost more than truth over the long run. Truth has a way of shining the light on our Shadows.

Truth puts us in Right Relationship with ourselves and others when we have the Courage to face up to it.

There’s a Buddhist saying: “Everything is perfect, with room for improvement.” When we go inward on the Journey towards self knowledge and understanding, we begin to Love ourselves just as we are. Then the need to live a lie on the outside is alleviated, because we are not living the lie on the inside. Yes, we all have flaws and live imperfect lives and would prefer to hide certain things from others, but would we all not be happier if we embraced the truth of who we are? I feel it would free us up to be more creative and accepting of ourselves and others.

I’ve come to understand that lies are ego-led, whereas truth is spirit-led. The truth of recent wars the US has engaged in would overwhelm most of us, so we rely upon the platitudes of our leaders and swallow half truths. These are lies, a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Wars are often based upon lies, a false rationale, to justify the impending action. Far more soldiers have died from suicide than from battles abroad this century. Now that is a truth worth fighting for.

A Life of Balance


One of the regulars at our Sweat Lodge ceremonies is a friend of mine. He lost his right arm in a car crash when he was a young man. Now he’s a grandfather in his 50s who has lived over 30 years with only his left arm.

As we beat our drums and sang the native songs in the pitch black lodge, he dropped his beater. I sensed him urgently trying to find it as the song continued without the pounding of his drum.

And then… suddenly, his drumbeats returned.

Long after the ceremony ended, I kept thinking about life with one arm. My friend is out of Balance. He must make adjustments for everyday activities we do without thinking, like tying shoes, eating, typing on the computer.

For me, Balance requires considering the four quadrants of the Wheel. On the horizontal axis we have the mind in the East (Right Action) and the body in the West (Higher Purpose). On the other axis, we have Spirit in the North (Integrity) and Heart in the South (Trust).

Considering all four quadrants of the Wisdom Wheel helps me Journey through life, embracing challenges and issues honoring not just my Self but also others.

I have so much respect for my friend with one arm. Whenever we send time together, he shows me no matter the challenges we face, they can be surmounted.

In or Out?


Like many people, I wake up and sip my morning tea while I check emails and read up on news on the web. Sadly, it’s mostly stories of abuse and violence painted in harsh letters across my screen.

Psychologists say anger is a smoke screen for fear. So as I read these stories, I mull over the backstory of fear. Recently I read about a Muslim woman Nadiya Hussain, a chef, who has suffered abuse. What fears drive people to project their rage onto others?

It is not the outer Journey that we need to look at, but the one on the inside. Merely focusing on our lives in the external world encourages violent and abusive behavior when we don’t look or become Aware of our own Shadow.

Carl Jung introduced the concept of the Shadow to the western world in the early 20th century, the idea that we have issues and feelings that we prefer not to look. We relegate them to the Shadows of our lives. But when we do this, these Shadow issues fester. They can become unbearable, and so, people lash out at others and project their emotional angst onto others. This is played out in the life of Nadiya Hussain, and many others who are perceived as “Other” by folks.

When a person chooses to go on the inward Journey they must deal with their own stuff. It can be painful, but ultimately very rewarding. Why don’t these absuers look at Nadiya and ask in wonderment about her creative cooking? Rather than identify her as a Muslim, in their minds a threat to be feared.

When we go in towards our soul, to our spiritual self, we begin the Journey of embracing the whole Self. When we can achieve that, we can embrace whatever life throws at us in a good way.

Many years ago I wrote a poem called “Voices” Here is the first stanza:

There is a voice waiting to be heard
In each of us, there is a voice, waiting…
Quietly, and then sometimes not so.
Do I hear these words in me?
Can I look back and know that I have heard this sound?

When we hear the voice, deep within, it will calm our fears and lead us to a tranquil place. Are you ready to hear the voice within? It is wiser than the voice without.

Preparing for Winter


Although we are still in the warm embrace of summer, the icy claws of winter are beckoning. Like the ants in Aesop’s fable, I spend an hour a day preparing for the upcoming season by cutting, splitting and stacking wood.

There’s an old truism that says “When you provide your own fuel, such as wood, it heats you twice.” When I look at the steps in the Process of preparing the firewood, I recognize that it heats me up many times. The Process requires me to:

– Cut the large trunks into about 18’ lengths.
– Use the green hand cart to move the logs to the splitter.
– Unload and split as required.
– Transfer the split logs to woodshed and stack with the wheelbarrow.
– Carry logs into the house as required.
– Feel the heat from the woodstove.


That’s 6 distinct activities that expend my energy during the Process, and, especially now in the height of summer, do I get hot!

It feels good. Although my body tires, my heart and arteries are no doubt thankful for the workout. Also, the physical exercise provides a good Balance to the more sedentary lifestyle that requires me to be in front of a computer every day. And, not only is it good exercise, it’s also cathartic for me. It puts me in Right Relationship with nature.

Sometimes, when I split a log, I’ll discover a seething mass of ants rushing around. Are they in the Process of preparing for winter, too, like me?

Going Home


This morning, I was reading an article online and needed to get back to the Home page. To start fresh, so to speak. I easily found the “Home” symbol I was looking for.

It was a reassuring, simple friend in our complex world. In fact, I felt a hint of relief when I saw the symbol. It brought me a sense of Balance and calmness.

I believe that people who lack a Higher Purpose or sense of Right Action burn up, because their inner turbulence consumes them. As a member of the Wisdom Wheel community, I feel energized. During my work assignments abroad, I work long days yet I rarely feel tired. I attribute this partly to the Wheel. Being able to map my unfolding life on the Wheel helps me. I can recognize the Shadow when I see it, I am able to call upon my Creativity (the mental, emotional and spiritual kinds). I never feel lonely as I carry my Home with me, wherever I go.

Going home, for me, is going back to the center. Understanding Cause and Effect, Giving and Receiving, and Trusting in the Journey. I have Faith that things will work out. As a child going home was not necessarily a pleasant experience. Going home now, anywhere, always results in serenity.

Life Lessons Over 18 Holes


My young Japanese friend Rintaro is golf-obsessed. So I recently took him, and myself, for a golf lesson.

There are about 7 golf courses within a 20-minute drive of my house – no lie! In the past, I played golf one or twice a year. Now I’m hitting the green at least twice a month.

Our instructor Isaac first watched me swing the club. He immediately identified a key problem with my technique. I followed his directive and soon, I was hitting the ball much better.

Isaac understands the Process of the golf swing and he helped me figured out how to be in Right Relationship with the club and the ball. He sees the Cause and Effect as I prepared to hit the ball.

The following day, I played a round of golf with Rintaro and his father. It was the best game of my life!

If only it were that simple in life! I need to practice more, but I have confidence that I will improve, even at my age.

When we Journey not the golf course, but the path of our life, the Wisdom Wheel can give us pointers like Isaac did, so we can succeed and feel that we have accomplished much.

The Wisdom Wheel laws can each play their part as we journey towards old age, giving us life lessons along the way. A golf course has 18 holes. Life has 81 years (or more) if we are lucky. The Wheel can be with us each day, of each year, helping us score well, in our jobs, with our families and friends, and with ourselves.

The Good Life


In these turbulent and violent times, I am grateful to live in such a peaceful place. The other evening, the toughest choice I faced was whether to order fish or clams strips.

Tom likes his fries!

Tom likes his fries!

This was Friday night. Little Tom (whom I wrote about previously), our guest Rintaro and I went to the beach to frolic by the sea and enjoy some seafood. As we all tucked into our food, it seemed like all was right in our little corner of the world.
Rintaro chows down on his fish and chips!

Rintaro chows down on his fish and chips!

Tom and Rintaro know little of the Wisdom Wheel. But they are Loved and nurtured. Although they haven’t studied Right Relationship or Right Action, they exist in an environment where folks can Trust and feel empathy.

As I walked along the beach feeling the sand between my toes, I wasn’t on high alert. I meandered and meditated as I took in the sea air and the cascading waves tickled my calves. Still, I felt sadness for the victims of the recent violence. I carry the laws of Right Relationship and Right Action in hopes that I can make a positive impact on the environment I live in, and that others do the same.

The Web of Ultimate Reality


As I brushed my teeth the other day with bleary eyes, I spotted a gypsy moth caught in a spiderweb. The moth flapped vigorously in an escape attempt. But no matter how hard it struggled, the Ultimate Reality was that it would be a meal for the spider. After some moments, it stopped, exhausted from effort.

The next day, the Process of capture and encasement was complete. The moth was gone, eaten by the spider probably, as part of nature’s Cycle.

What webs do we find ourselves in? As children, we’re stuck in the web of family dynamics. We seek Right Relationship before our Higher Purpose. The entangled web of finding our Higher Purpose comes in our late teens and early twenties on the North side of the Wheel.

Sometimes the spiderweb of societal expectations feels more like a leash. Rather than focus on a Journey imposed on me by society, I’ve chosen to concentrate on the inner Journey. That Journey that leads to Forgiveness of Self and hence for others.

The spider does what it has to do for survival. It traps the moth and eats it. That is its Higher Purpose in the Cycle of life. That is its Ultimate Reality. We, however, have more options. We can make Choices and be Creative about our path.

I know what my Right Action is. It is to be in Right Relationship with others and to have empathy. I know this is the only way forwards for me, toward Sacred Oneness.

Follow Me


I’ve just returned from a quick project in Singapore. While in transit at the Moscow Airport, I saw a “Follow Me” car. These cars assist and guide international landing planes to their proper taxi and gate. Naturally the “Follow Me” car driver knows his way around the airport runways and taxiways better than the pilots who fly into the airport only once in a while. It’s a pragmatic and effective Process to guide these metal flying behemoths when the pilot is in unfamiliar territory.

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The “Follow Me” car in action

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The “Follow Me” car in action

I like to think we could use Wisdom Wheel as a “Follow Me” guide on our Journeys. When I find myself in unfamiliar terrain, or meet strangers, go new places, or experience new challenges, I use the Wisdom Wheel principles to get back to basics. It’s my calibration tool, guide, my compass. Even when I make mistakes, which I do often, I can forgive myself, because I’ve learned to be in Right Relationship with myself. “Follow Me” is the Ultimate Reality of the soul’s voice, the inner voice I listen to. May it continue to serve me well on the Journey.

Brexit and the Law of Choices


There’s a saying: “A week is a long time in politics”.

As many of you know, I am British and this saying was proven yet again this week in my motherland. This week’s referendum was an example of the Law of Choices on a national (even global) scale.

Apparently, the majority of British voters feel that the Right Action is to “Leave” the European Union. Will their Faith in England be rewarded? Time will tell, I suppose.

In my humble opinion, the “Remain” campaign was not in Right Relationship with the English folks outside of London. Their campaign lacked an Awareness of the gap between the “haves” and the “have-nots”.  Many in the “Leave” camp do not Trust the political leaders in London, much less in Brussels.

Fear also fueled the decision to “Leave”. People are fearful of the immigration crisis, open borders, and Europeans (and refugees) taking English jobs.

However, England’s Journey back to self-sufficiency is having global repercussions. The Pound Sterling has dropped to a 30-year low and the stock markets are tumbling. Even my small English pension is worth much less, but I can deal with that. This is a lesson I am taking with me on a personal level. It’s important that we all maintain an inner sense of Balance and self-sufficiency while chaos reigns in the outer world.

Good luck to my country of birth. May there be Right Relationship now between those who chose to Leave and those who chose to Remain.